Why I Had A Hard Time Liking People

So many people talk about how they hate people or don’t like people, and I used to think in a similar way.

The reason I was that way (and why I suspect a lot of other people are that way), had to do with the fact that I was constantly trying to control people. So there was always an internal conflict going on whenever I interacted with them.

I didn’t like the way someone reacted to what I said, I didn’t like the fact that they disagreed with me, I felt like they didn’t understand me exc.

And, I wanted them to see me how I felt they should see me.

I wanted them to be impressed by me, and think I was cool.

So I’d get frustrated with people because they never acted how I wanted them to, or believed they should.

And they didn’t know the things I thought they should (and I didn’t have the patience to teach them).

So instead of actually interacting & engaging with people, I’d just sit at home and daydream, and imagine people the way I wanted them to be.

Or, I’d watch movies or read books and live through that, because that fit more into my idea of how I wanted people to be.

Acceptance

When I began to accept that people are who they are regardless of who you want them to be, or who you believe they should be, it allowed me to enjoy people more.

I began to take myself off that God-like pedestal and realized people are enough.

Not everything and everyone has to be what I consider perfect, because I’m not that either.

Sometimes we think we are so smart and so good, that we can’t even see outside of ourselves.

And it’s funny, because a lot of us pride ourselves on being empathetic but at the same time we can’t stand to be around other people.

We judge people all the time and are so critical and impatient with others.

The Reality

But, there’s really no need to try to control people because that’s not our job. We are not Gods and people are not our creations.

We have to learn to be patient with people and see people the way we want to be seen.

The “I hate people” thing primarily comes from a place of wanting to control people and our frustration with our lack of control over people.

When you try to control people it exhausts you, and oftentimes does not work.

So ultimately, we have to begin to move past that notion so we can grow strong bonds with one another, outside of the principle of control.